Hella Positive

As I may have mentioned in several of my posts, my weight has never been stagnant. It took me a little over 30 years to become comfortable in my skin. 

I have never been more confident in myself as I am now. Everyone takes different journeys to get there, but here is mine: it took for me to design a body that I was proud of to obtain my confidence. It was a little backwards, but it worked for me. The mental shift that took place for me allows me to maintain this acceptance moving forward, no matter how I look. I will also not let myself get to a point in my appearance where I am seeking drastic change. That is a choice that I make to allow myself space to transform but not stray, and that helps me preserve my love of physical self.

Listening to the scale and the doctors’ measure of what I am supposed to look like would likely trigger some form of depression. I am currently ~150-155 lbs at 5’3. The only thing I know that needs to change is my BMI, but I know I am more muscle than I am fat and since muscle weighs more, it appears as if I am overweight for my height. Since I like the way I look, I don’t care how society feels about it— a preferable 120ish lbs for my height. Meh. 

Don’t be like me and come down so hard on yourself for gaining a few pounds of quarantine weight, baby weight, period weight, stress weight, or just eating your weight in hurricane/snowstorm snacks, or whatever your vice may be. 

There is a fine line between body positivity and promoting an unhealthy lifestyle. One thing I will not condone is poor lifestyle choices when it comes to your body and nutrition. While I promote acceptance in your skin, I do not want it to translate to being happy about a destructive lifestyle. Everyone is built and designed differently; some have parts (or wholes) larger than others, but it doesn’t mean they are unhealthy. An example of this is my woman crush Tabria Majors… she is just… heart-eyes. She weighs in over 200 lbs (granted she is also 5’10) but is large and sexy. She wears her skin so well that she radiates. But I watch her exercise regularly and eat healthy, so I know she was never meant to be a small individual. She promotes healthy life choices while maintaining a heavier weight, but also being an incredibly aesthetically perfect human. She is the definition of body positivity and acceptance.

Well anyway, this is just a quick post to remind you that whoever you are, you’re beautiful. Going up against social standards of beauty can be brutal. We don’t all have Meg’s tatas, Shelah Marie’s booty, and Serena Williams’s legs. Accept how you were made, change what can be changed that you’re not comfortable with, but love yourself regardless…

I’m sure somebody like it….!!