Rollin Blunt

Quite obviously, I tend to overshare; and I’m not convinced that I believe in horoscopes, but if I did, I am a Scorpio to the tee. If you know anything about us, it’s that you know exactly what handful you’re getting when it comes to people like us. I leave very little room for questioning that. I am passionate, emotionally charged, assertive, outspoken, and my favorite of all, BLUNT. 

Do not confuse this word with being rude, because blunt and obnoxious are two different entities. Some will use that word loosely as justification to why they are just jerks who say whatever comes to mind. Blunt simply means frank, direct, forward. When you are just blatantly saying rude things, you are literally just trying to hurt someone’s feelings. That is not about being blunt. That is also not cool. 

·       Speak up or sit down

Being a blunt woman [of color] can be tricky because once we give an unpopular opinion on things, we are labeled as angry, aggressive, bossy, etc. I’ll be that; but what you are not going to do is try to manipulate or take advantage of me, because I will call you right out on it. I used to be so timid and quiet because I was afraid to rock the boat in any sense of the word. The older I get, the less crap I take from anyone. I don’t care who you are, I will take nothing lying down. Speak up or be a doormat. 

·       Be forward

When you are being forward, you are open to do/say things that people may think are taboo or short of political correctness. Remove the doubt from their mind about what you are saying. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. State your intent with people. This is especially helpful in social settings. I hate having my time wasted, so this one in particular is my favorite part of directness.

·       Be assertive

If something or someone is making you uncomfortable or being disrespectful, address it. I am learning how to approach things in my professional setting, but it WILL be addressed. That’s why I need to start working for myself. LOL!

·       Be intentional

Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Simple. Lashing out is not the answer and neither is saying things with ill intentions.

All of these tips I use require a certain level of confidence and a certain level of realism that I have grown to possess. Because God just rolled me blunt.